Learning to think was not a process that came naturally or quickly for me. In fact, thinking for oneself was tacitly discouraged throughout my growing up – mostly because thinking would inevitably lead to disagreement, but also (and this was never said in so many words) because I was a girl. Oddly enough, whenever I exhibited a tendency to reason logically, my dad would reprimand me and point out that “logic doesn’t work on people.”
So I spent the first 21 years of my life blindly trusting those “God put in authority” over me. I trusted them to think for me, protect me, and direct my every decision. Though my parents were passive about the authority they exerted over my life, I was determined to live by the rules – to earn God’s blessing, naturally – and thus wholeheartedly “gave up my right” to think for myself. I was raised in a culture where this was the “godly” thing to do.
I still remember the day when the first real fissure appeared in my mind. It was, fittingly, a bright, hot summer day, and I was sitting in the membership class of the church my family had been attending for just a few short months. I had my green membership notebook and my Bible open on my lap, and I remember soaking up the discussion of Reformed Theology as if I’d been handed the moon. In an unconscious effort to protect us from overtaxing our minds, my parents never discussed theology, philosophy, literature, psychology, or major portions of world history, so I had never been exposed to the idea that theology is actually the study of God – and how belief in and about God affects everyday life. It was the first time I had encountered theology outside of a male argument (I had overheard enough to know that theology was a reason to fight about God), and I was enthralled. Theology was for me, too? And it wasn’t about fighting?!
Oh, and my pastor said that grace was a free gift – unmerited favor, he called it.
I had never heard of such a thing.
Until that day, all my information and instruction about faith had come from essentially one source. And I had believed all of it. And – until that day – I had never questioned it.
One shaft of light, and suddenly my entire existence shifted. Once darkness had been banished and sight had come, it was impossible for me to envision a world where one person had all the answers. My beginning may have been slow and it may have been “late” by contemporary standards (I was 21 and had finished my junior year of college – and college, incidentally, had nothing to do with learning how to think, though both in and out of the classroom I encountered plenty of “new” ideas), but I took the concept of using my own brain quite seriously once I had begun.
“When you listen and read one thinker, you become a clone… two thinkers, you become confused… ten thinkers, you’ll begin developing your own voice… two or three hundred thinkers, you become wise and develop your voice.” ~ Tim Keller
I’m developing my voice, and I do not intend to stop.